History repeats ...

Egypt

Journalists talk a lot about violence in Egypt. And the up to date question is: “How has the Democracy been high jacked by the military?” (that really mean: “shame on them”).

In America (USA) we want everything to go fast and well. But on another hand, if you think of France's history. Year 1789: the big revolution, lead by the people … has been followed by various unstable, biased governments during the age of the “terror” that, just for revenge, good conscience, and the addiction to blood, killed a maximum of aristocrats.

After which, maybe because they wanted a rest and to quiet the situation, the French gave themselves … what? an Emperor!!! Napoleon the First.

If we compare the 2 situations, Egypt is doing pretty well at growing up, and much faster than the French only 3 centuries ago. Of course now is the communication revolution that speeds up every thing … the good and the bad … At the time, France had the diehard, fed up with the kings and the "ancient regime" revolutionaries, now Egypt has its religious fundamentalists, and still plenty of time... by comparison.

Short term / Long term

From a distance I could see a round woman energetically struggling, binding forward, exerting herself, brushing a parking lot floor. … Water was running from a hose toward the gutters and the sewage. She was perspiring

As I approached, to be nice and encouraging, I said: “it seems to be hard work what are you trying to achieve?” - “My granddaughter spilled paint and I’m cleaning it now.”--”how old is your granddaughter, who did such a thing?” Did I ask. – “she is 7”. – “if she is 7, she could be the one cleaning the paint that she dropped.” I added. I didn't get any response from the grandmother. I didn't expect any … I went on to my car...

And I started thinking ...

7 year old is what most people, in psychology or religion, call the start of “age of reason”, meaning that the child is starting to think differently than before, in a more rational manner and can understand the concept of responsibility. The concept that for any action there are consequences. The 'reason age' is only because now we assume that they can understand concepts. But the child still has to learn it, has to be told, and the family is there to teach, to bring up ... To elevate children ...

But in a family most of the time, loving parents want to do everything for their children.

Do you think that the kindness of the grandmother was helping the child to grow up?

Short term / Long term

From a distance I could see a round woman struggling, binding forward, exerting herself, brushing a parking lot floor. She was perspiring … Water was running from a hose toward the gutters and the sewage.

As I approached, to be nice and encouraging, I said: “it seems to be hard work what are you trying to achieve?” - “My granddaughter spilled paint and I’m cleaning it now.”--”how old is your granddaughter, who did such a thing?” Did I ask. – “she is 7”. – “if she is 7, she could be the one cleaning the paint that she dropped.” I added. I didn't get any response from the grandmother. I didn't expect any … I went on to my car...

7 year old is what most people, in psychology or religion, call the start of “age of reason”, meaning that the child is starting to think differently than before, in a more rational manner and can understand the concept of responsibility. The concept that for any action there are consequences. The 'reason age' is only because now we assume that they can understand concepts. But the child still has to learn it, has to be told, and the family is there to teach, to bring up ... To elevate children ...

But in a family most of the time, loving parents want to do everything for their children.

Do you think that the kindness of the grandmother was helping the child to grow up?

Public Servant?

I have the power to vote and  my vote will go to anybody except the Congress people now in place.
They have shown that they have forgotten the reasons for which they have been elected and whom they should be working for... for the People.
Either for personal gain, or fear of not being re-elected or simple lack of guts. I do not want to be represented by that...
They certainly are intelligent and educated people, but the more intelligent and educated person in the wrong direction can be very dangerous

A Lesson - How to detach from the family...

and yow you could do too now

The young woman who wants a car...

It's long ago, in Paris, France, traffic is intense but acceptable. She wants to have her own new car. She wants a small Fiat 500, 'le pot de yogurt'... She found a red one... that she can afford.

A bunch of guys are selling it for... I forgot the price. After changing the tires etc.. she decided to get it.... She only has enough money for the down payment and needs a credit to complete the deal. After looking up in the French directory, 'le bottin', she found a reasonable financial establishment, a hole in the wall of a big building, which had the money, could advance it to her at an acceptable return rate.

Very proudly she makes the deal and gets - not the girl, but- the car.

Her first move is to go home and show her new acquisition to her mother, who lives in the suburbs of Paris.

When the mother sees the car and learns how her daughter went to perfect strangers to borrow money, she had a fit... let's say that she took very personally as an insult that maybe her daughter didn't: use her, trust her, give her enough importance... to ask her for the money.

The fact is: the growing up daughter, consciously or unconsciously wanted to get out of the family loop mostly created by the mother. Loop where she, the daughter, would receive many things with no expectancy of return, thus not being taught to be responsible for her desires or actions.

 

Something tells me that:

Guided by love, the mother's resistance to see reality forced her to still consider her children as little babies for whom we do everything. Until now, she had had no reason to change the typical martyr attitude that could allow her the genuine right to complain and blame anything and anybody. She was desperately trying to bring back the attention onto her with the implicit sentence: “look what you're doing to me....”

Now, that was one family...

You may answer a few questions that could help you understand better what your life learning has been that decided who you are now …

What was your family dynamics?

What was your family attitude?

What were your intention and attitude?

What other comments would you add to this?

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